Heard It Through The Grapevine………. August 8, 2012
Posted by Waking Up With A Broken Heart in Love & Grief.trackback
It’s just so hard to accept that you are no longer here……..
I look at your pictures and it’s like I can just reach out and touch you………….how could this be……………..how can this be real?????
I heard it thru the grapevine that someone thinks I need to “get over it already & get on with my life”
Jeese, what does that mean…….. really???
Like a spilled glass of milk…………get over it, clean it up and get another one?????
Like getting a bad grade on your report card??? Just do better on the next one???
Or like losing a favorite glove, just go buy another one…………..
Or do you mean like losing your baby that your carried in your womb for 9 months, loved, nurtured, adored and cared for……… for 7 years, then he died after you watched him suffer and be tortured for half his life…………….., just get over it and forget it ever happened??????
Is that what you mean??
Okay, when….GOD FORBID…….this happens to you, then you can tell me to get over it and get on with my life……….
Until then…
I will continue to cry, suffer, scream, hide, mourn, sleep, avoid people, and do whatever it is I need to do to just survive………
Thank you, though, for you unwanted input………..
Waking Up With A Broken Heart 
Are we taught not to judge? Or say what is the right way to mourne a loss of someone we love? But most of all a child. I have been one of the lucky ones to have met sal , I have been lucky to also get to know all of slivia’s children , all who are amazing and different in their own way . And she is doing an amazing job considering her broken heart . But this is what I what I would say to the people out there who say (Get Over It) Shame on all, unless yov’ve been where she has you don’t know what she feels, unless you’ve lost a child you don’t have the right to say certain words you say ,when one mourns . So unless you have the power to fix this Broken Heart which you don’t , Try to understand it’s not something a mother just gets over not now not ever . Love you Esther
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Silvia if I lost a child I would never get over it!i am sorry people are so insensitive!
Rose
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It is evident that the person who told you to get over it.. is not a mom. Because a mother knows that you never get over a loss of a child. I as a mom cannot even begin to know the pain you feel every day but I do know that what you and Sal had was something so special and rare. I believe you were two hearts joined together forever… and now that he is gone, your heart will forever be broken.. Yes, you will live everyday and enjoy special moments with the ones you love, and you will smile from time to time but you will never get over or move on from your Sal…. or the pain of his loss.
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how dare someone say that to you?! I can only imagine as unfortunately I do many many nights, what you are going through. no one understands unless they are a mother of a child with cancer and have lost their child. I think you are doing amazing stay real, its the only way to survive.
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Silvia, knowing all too well how you feel, my guess is that the person who suggested you get over it 1) has never been even close to walking a mile in your moccasins and 2) is scared to death by the depth of your pain as they know they couldn’t handle a loss of a loved one with whom they shared so much. So ignore them and keep being open and honest. There was no such thing as social media when my wounds were new (I started to say ‘fresh’ but they are still fresh, decades later) so either I shut up or relied on “friends” and you truly find out who your friends are when you have suffered great loss. I will be forever grateful for my true friends and they are really the only people I still wish to be with to this day. People who remember…… There really are no words. Hold close to the Ones You Love.
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I can not even imagine someone saying this … How would you ever get over the loss of a child! I think about you and the family all the time. Last week while we were at Joe DiMaggio for Levi’s test for his kidney you were on my mind the entire time. As I stood by my 10 week old little boy as they were trying to get an IV in him and couldn’t after the 4th time … I felt like I was helpless and they were torturing him! In my mind I saw you and Sal and thought about all he went through … I still don’t know how you did all you did, but of course you did it for Sal:)) I am dreading we go back in 4 weeks to try again! Until someone walks in your shoes they will never know the bond you and Sal had!! You are a great person & are loved by so many XoXo
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Who cares what they think! If I lost one of my girls I would be devastated not to mention probably go crazy. Ignore the lowlifes Cybie. You do what you need to do. There is no “getting over” this. There should never be. I love you and miss you.
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I wish you all the strength that I can possibly muster………I cannot imagine how hard life is for you everyday, life is precious and the life of a young child more so…..you are brave and strong to have watched your son suffer so……..you will never “get over” losing your child just like you will never stop “loving” your child and you will ALWAYS be a mother of 5 children…….I wish you love and happy memories but most of all I want you to know that as a mother I am in awe of what and who you are…..which is amazing……don’t listen to idiots, they know nothing!
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